Takeaways from the Podcast "Modern Love: Andrew Garfield Wants to Crack Open Your Heart"
1. Living each day twice
"They had this wonderful prayer called the Examine that they do every night. ...Basically, he starts by saying, So what I did is I started living each day twice and choose to see deeper and be more present in every small, banal, seemingly moment. You haven't got to be a Jesuit or a Catholic or even religious to do this, but it's a beautiful practice at the end of the day, every night, just to lay down, close your eyes, go back over the day.
Think of the three or four moments where, as the Jesuits would say, where you felt God's presence very near you, but fill in the blank, where you felt alive, where you felt close to yourself, where you felt connected to the mystery, the unseen forces.
And you reenter those moments and you savor the feeling of it could be something to do with nature, a conversation with a friend, time spent with a God child, whatever it is. And then you go through the whole day and you notice where you were of that mystery. And then you notice again where you missed the mark and you ask for forgiveness and you ask to do better tomorrow. It takes 15 minutes and usually you fall asleep during and you have a better sleep because you're connecting and you're savoring the things that matter. "
2. Best part of the day, worst part of the day.
"In our family, we talk about our days and recount our best part and worst part at dinner time.
Last week, I was reading a bedtime story with my son and was distracted by the laptop and work waiting on my desk, but I turned to him and I said, We forgot best part, worst part. What was the best part of your day? He pushed his chin into my shoulder and said, This is Daddy. This is.
I felt a complete fool. I had to close my eyes for a moment. And then we agreed that his worst part was when he had cried about eating chickpeas. "
3. Onism
"... it's the sense and the knowing and the sorrow of knowing that you will only be able to live your own life. You won't be to have all of the experiences you want, that I won't be able to read all the books in the library, see all the films in the cinema, to know all the people on Earth, visit all the countries, know all of history, all the time. Like, there's a an imprisonment in the life that you have, realizing that you're trapped to a certain amount of experience as you're alive."
